Great Insight: God Has a Love Language and It’s Probably Not What You Think

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Note:  This is a guest post by Kurt Bennett.  You can learn more about Kurt in the author bio section at the end of this post.

I was inspired by the recent Harvest America evangelical events held in two stadiums in Southern California, and streamed over the internet to hundreds of venues across the United States.

When I first heard about it, my reaction was, “Wow, this is huge! What an ambitious undertaking, asking God to save lost souls throughout the country. Greg Laurie and the others pulling this thing together must have tremendous faith to tackle such a huge undertaking.”

But then, I got to thinking…

What About Love Languages?

The 5 Love Languages by Gary ChapmanYou know that book that’s a huge best seller, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman? Have you ever read that book?

In it Chapman identifies five distinct languages used to express love. He explains how every person on the planet has their own primary love language.

And he describes how, if someone is not receiving love communicated in the right language, that person won’t feel loved.

So take my wife, as an example, her primary love language is all about acts of service. My primary love language is all about words of affirmation. If I try to express love to Kathy through words of affirmation, while neglecting acts of service, things tend not to go very well (just ask Kathy).

When I’m off my game in this way, our conversation might go something like this:

Me:  “Wow honey, you look beautiful today.”

Kathy:  “Uh-huh.”

Me:  “Is that a new blouse?”

Kathy:  “Mm-hmm.”

Me:  “Sweetheart you’re so…”

Kathy: “Take out the trash.”

The great thing is though, if someone is receiving love communicated in their primary love language, an amazing connection can be established.

So when I’m on my game, and I show Kathy I love her with acts of service — Wow! This great chemistry happens and our relationship is blessed.

Does God Have a Love Language?

I say all that to say this: Not long ago I heard what I think was one of the most brilliant statements ever made concerning communication.

Referring to the scripture Hebrews 11:6, “Without faith it is impossible to please God”, a young pastor from Southern Oregon commented:

Faith is God’s love language. It pleases God when we believe what He says. In fact, the one virtue God demands we have, in order to be saved, is faith.  

(See Ben Courson’s teaching, Elephants in Christ, 8/12/2012)

This blew my mind!

I don’t know about you but I so desire to express my love for God effectively. And the young pastor’s comment makes it crystal clear how I can do that.

Jesus said you’re to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” (Matthew 22:37) And until now, I never realized the importance of loving God in the context of Hebrews 11:6.

Simply believing God is one of the most important ways I can accomplish Christ’s commandment to love Him.

Help for Speaking God’s Love Language

Right about now you might be thinking to yourself, “Sounds good but, I struggle. I struggle with my faith in God when I evangelize. I struggle with believing He can help me, with my thing, with my ministry. I struggle with believing God can use me to reach people for Jesus. Simply put, simply believing God isn’t very simple — for me.”

Well it hasn’t been for me either. But let me share something with you. Something that’s had a big impact on my faith in God’s ability to help me reach people for Christ.

Believe it or not, this is a picture of earth from outer space.

You’ve probably noticed the Mars rover Curiosity in the news lately. It’s an amazing adventure for our country and for the entire human race.

Martian images and articles are all over Facebook, blogs, and Twitter, and the other day I came across the photograph to your left.

The image is the first photograph ever taken of Earth from the surface of a heavenly body farther away than the moon.

The Mars Exploration Rover Spirit took this picture one hour before sunrise on the 63rd Martian day of its mission.

The thing about it is that the earth appears so tiny. I mean, look at it. They had to blow it up in an insert just to make it even noticeable. And this shot is from one of our nearest neighboring planets.

This photograph brings us to an inescapable realization: our world is among the smallest of things to God.  

I can’t even imagine how small our world looks from God’s perspective, from the perspective of the One who sees all of the space-time continuum.

So What Does This Mean?

So think about what that means for you and me, and our efforts to reach people for Christ.

When you realize how small the world is from God’s perspective, you realize how small a thing it is, in terms of effort, to lead people to Jesus — from God’s perspective. And you realize how big He is, compared to what you and I are asking Him to accomplish, through us.

This idea, this comparison, this realization has brought me personally, to the place where I see that it would be an easy thing for God to bring revival to the entire world.

Not that every single person would be saved, but all those who are given to Jesus Christ by the Father can receive an outpouring of the Holy Spirit and revival.

It’s brought me to the place where I see it makes sense to pray for revival throughout the world. (see John 17:9) This perspective, this belief, this faith is important.

Because faith is God’s love language.

Faith in God to help you blog, or write, or tweet to reach people for Christ pleases God.

Faith in God to reach people in the United States through Harvest America pleases God.

Faith in God to pour out His Holy Spirit and bring revival to the world pleases God.

Faith is God’s love language. #GodIsLove  

Key Takeaway

So go. Go out and evangelize the world, believing God will help you. And remembering, when you ask for His help, it’s a small thing for Him. (Matthew 28:16-20)


“Without faith it is impossible to please God.”  (Hebrews 11:6)

Do you think it’s that simple? Do you think faith is God’s only love language? If not, what other love languages do you think God converses in?

About The Author

Kurt Bennett is a retired fireman who loves to blog. He describes himself as “a regular guy who loves to search the Scriptures and bring people to Christ.”

Check out his blog by clicking here

Comments 7

  1. Excellent article Kurt! Faith as God’s love language…what an awesome thought!! I never really looked at faith that way before.
    It is so true that what we perceive as difficult is as nothing to God.

    I find it interesting that we all tend to project our fears outward to others hoping they will have at least some of what we feel…because then others will understand us and yes accept us. At the same time we are (fearful) of saying to much to anyone because we are worried that they will not accept us for the person we are.
    Don’t we do the same thing with God? Not so much projecting our fear onto Him, but trying to play hide and seek with Him as to our true thoughts and feelings. It’s like we are worried that if we reveal to much, admit that we are weak…then God might not like us and may turn His face from us. As if He does not know all about us to begin with!

    Or we do not have faith enough in God to do things like evangelism. We make it all about ourselves, (insert my name here) instead of taking the focus off of ourselves and transferring it to Jesus…having faith that where we lack, He will make up for it. After all…is not God’s strength manifested for His glory through our weakness? 🙂

    1. Well said Greg! I’m reminded of when they brought Jesus the mute boy who had convulsions. Jesus said to the father of the boy, “Everything is possible for one who believes.” Immediately the father exclaimed, “I do believe, help me overcome my unbelief!” (Mark 9:23-24)

      I like the transparency of the father of the sick child. As you wrote, we forget God knows our most intimate thoughts and feelings anyway. Our best approach is to lay it all out there for Him in prayer.

      Thanks for a great comment.

  2. I must admit, I was highly skeptical when I first saw the title of this blog post. When I saw that you had identified faith as God’s love language, my first instinct was to rebuff it because I was so sure it had to be obedience. But then you said,

    Simply believing God is one of the most important ways I can accomplish Christ’s commandment to love Him.

    That’s when it made sense to me. Jesus said, “If you love me, you’ll keep my commands” (John 14:15). And I thought of how many times in the Old Testament in particular, disobedience was directly linked to disbelief. I am truly blessed by your post and it has given me a lot to think about. Connecting faith with love is a lot to chew on!

    1. That’s the same way that I felt Eric when I first read Kurt’s blog post. It really made me think deep about the implications that were being made. It’s so true and that’s why I always love reading our brother Kurt’s writing.

      I also found your comment to be quite profound because you brought up the whole subject of obedience which is of paramount importance.

    2. Thanks for your comment and your insight Eric. To obey is better than sacrifice, and obedience is definitely essential to loving God. (1 Samuel 15:22)

      It’s interesting how you thought of how many times in the Old Testament disobedience was directly linked to disbelief. When I was thinking this through, I thought of the great lovers of God and their great faith — sort of the flip side of the way you looked at it.

  3. Thanks for your excellent post! Faith is certainly the doorway to the storehouse of God’s love language. Yet we need look no further than John 14 and the Upper Room Discourse to find Jesus revealing God’s love language.
    “If you love Me, keep My commandments… He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me… If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him. ” (John 14:15, 21, 23)

  4. Today, I felt strongly in my heart that God has a love language… and that the language is “Quality Time”. Then I thought I was just being crazy so I looked up something online to see if anyone had ever written about something like it- & I found your really interesting article. Thank you.

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