3 Surprising Reasons Why a Good God Allows Bad things to happen in your life

3 Surprising Reasons Why a Good God Allows Bad things to Happen in Your Life

Peter Guirguis Encouragement 45 Comments

You’re going through life, and you think that everything is going wonderfully.

It’s blue skies and green lights in all areas of your life.

Things couldn’t get any better for you.

But then suddenly, something unexpected happens and your world is turned upside down.

Maybe it’s the death of a loved one. Maybe your health takes a turn for the worse. Or maybe you end up losing your job.

You ask God to help you out, but your bad situation doesn’t change.

You pray that there’ll be an 180-degree U-turn in your circumstance, but nothing happens.

How come God isn’t answering your prayers?

Does God Care? Are You Sure God Exists?

Whether you’re a believer in God or not, most of us believe or have believed in God at some point in our lives.

When bad things happen to us, it’s easy to think that God doesn’t care about you, or that He isn’t involved in the world today.

It’s easy to think of God sometimes as your uncaring boss at work. You know the kind that sits down in his office with his feet up on his desk, clipping his nails?

He watches all of his employees do the hard work and having difficulties, but he doesn’t lift a finger to help out.

Is this an accurate picture of God?

I don’t think so.

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I once made the mistake of thinking this way about God.

I ended up believing that He didn’t exist, and that’s why I became an atheist for eight years of my life.

But God does exist.

Sometimes the reason He doesn’t reverse the bad things that happen in your life is because God has three choices.

These three choices are things that most people never think about when it comes to God.

I explain everything in this video.

After that, continue reading to find out the three reasons why God sometimes allows bad things to happen in your life.

3 Reasons God Allows Bad Things to Happen in Your Life

1.  Reason #1 – To Change Your Character

It isn’t when everything is hunky-dory that you end up experiencing a change in your character.

Talk to the most successful people in life and they’ll tell you that they changed for the better when they faced adversity.

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God will sometimes use bad situations in our lives to transform our character so that we can be more like His Son.

2.  Reason #2 – To Prepare You For Bigger Plans

If you’re a child of God, then God has a plan for your life.

Most of the time, you don’t see the big picture, you only see what’s in front of you.

But the view from above is much different.

God sees your entire life, and He’s preparing you for what’s ahead.

I remember reading the story of Pastor Jon Courson a few years ago.

He pastored a church in Oregon.

Pastor Jon is an incredibly nice guy. He serves God; he volunteers in many areas, and he helps a lot of people every day.

Many years ago, he and his wife were driving on a wintry day. As the curvy road was winding, he was in a head-on car accident with his wife.

He survived the car crash but his wife passed away. She left behind Jon, and three beautiful children.

He could have easily asked why God allowed this to happen to him, especially since he’s someone who serves God full-time.

I’m pretty sure that he had his weak moments. But Pastor Jon continued to serve and worship God.

But the story doesn’t end there.

A few years later, Jon’s daughter was involved in a car accident at exactly the same spot on that curvy road.

Like her mom, Jon’s daughter didn’t survive, and she ended up going to heaven too.

All the time, Pastor Jon says that there was one verse that God kept on bringing to his mind during both tragedies in his life.

Jeremiah 29:11

There is no doubt that God allowed both tragedies to happen to Pastor Jon for different reasons that we probably don’t know about.

But one thing is for sure. Pastor Jon now knows how to comfort those who have lost loved ones because he has been comforted by God.

God has been able to use him in many ways now that He had gone through these difficult life trials.

I’m not saying that God is the cause of these car accidents that took Pastor Jon’s wife and daughter away.

But I am saying that God permitted these trials to happen for certain reasons.

3.  Reason #3 – To Save Your Life

Have you always made the best decisions in your life?

If you’re human, then you’ve probably made some decisions that you’ve regretted.

Some of those decisions can be so devastating, that you can be on the road to destruction.

So God has to get you off your way so you can avoid a major collision on your life-journey.

This was the case with my new Senior Pastor, Pastor Jeff Gill.

Pastor Jeff’s story is that he was a successful businessman who had his own company. He and his wife were well-off financially.

However, even though they were successful on the outside, they had no peace on the inside.

God ended up allowing Pastor Jeff to lose his company and all of his money so that he can get off of the road that he was on.

Pastor Jeff and his wife (Connie) ended up accepting Christ as their Lord and Savior in the process.

It was a hard and difficult journey, but it was worth it in the end.

Takeaway

Just because God doesn’t respond to your prayer the way that you want Him to then it doesn’t mean that He doesn’t care.

Just because God doesn’t bring your trial to an end, then it doesn’t mean that He’s not listening when you pray.

It also certainly does not mean that God doesn’t exist.

As you saw from the video, I made that mistake of thinking that God didn’t exist when bad things happened to my family when I was in high school.

I’ve shared about it before in my personal story of how I came to faith, lost my faith and then came back.

When you’re going through a difficult circumstance, don’t walk away from God.

God loves you, He cares about you, and He’s going to be there for you every step of the way.

You just have to put your trust in Him and endure for a season.

There is a purpose behind the pain.

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Peter Guirguis

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I'm the Technology Manager of Calvary Chapel South Bay, a church in Gardena, California. I'm also the founder of Grace Digital Solutions, a company that builds websites for businesses and non-profits. My passion is to see people give their life to Christ both offline and online.

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  2. Great post. Also, I believe that trials and bad things are used to make us turn or return to God and become humble and dependent on Him. When things go our way, we can become prideful or selfor reliant. Thankfully, God uses adversity and trials to bring us from self centeredness to Christ likeness.

  3. The problem we have as humans is that we conceive God the way we think He’s supposed to operate, which means that we limit Him to our own human conception and understanding instead of seeing Him in the context of His own sovereignty as the God of the universe. That’s the main reason once a tragedy occurs, it’s very easy for us to think that God doesn’t care or for us to start questioning why God has allowed something like that to occur.

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  4. A Excellent post,can come as an enlightenment to many people who have lost faith in God,due to various reasons.From my personal experience,i can say that,everything god allows, happens for a reason.I am of of Hindu faith,and in the Vedas,it is said that,a successful person is one,who has rid himself of the greed,malice and ambition.He knows that these are universal bondage,created by the devil,which leads one away from god.He is happy and contempt,whether,people praise him or curse him.He knows that there is only one ultimate way,and that is the way of god.

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  5. I just went through something today while driving and was very angry but the interesting part is i was talking about the Lord and certain things i was going through in my personal life with a sister from church how I need and want to draw more to God and do his will and this incident happened so I decided to look up why God allows certain bad things to happen in our lives and i came across these comments I appreciate and thank the Lord for spiritual brothers and sisters like yourselves to help educate spirituality people like myself and others who need to understand and know the Lords will in us

  6. After having spent months in and out of hospital and feeling dejected and close to breaking point,emotionally as well as physically and wondering what the purpose of it all was,something amazing happened.After having been discharged from hostpial and feeling almost completely better,I travelled to Birmingham England to do a little retail therapy,something I hadn’t been well enough to do for nearly a year.
    A woman approached me on the main high street,asking me to answer a few survey questions,something I was always avoiding and reluctant to to do!!BUT for some reason I sucommed and agreed to talk with her for anew minutes.When asked I gave her my name and to my utter amazement she said she knew about me,told me where I lived and that I had been recently hospitalised and which hospital it was,,,,,I was flabbergasted and couldn’t understand how she knew so much about me.It turned out that her best friend had been on the same ward as me and had told her about this woman on the ward who had sat at her bedside and told her all about the love that God had for her And this woman had prayed with her!!!! Sadly this dear lady had since passed away with cancer…….but I believe that that woman is in heaven now!!!And the Lord God was confirming to me by this amazing encounter on a main high street in a city of a few million,,that He is in total control and that,truely all things do work out for good and to His glory in the lives of those if us who love HIM…..To God be the glory forever…amen
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    From Hildi Boyd. July 30th 2016 12.30pm

      1. I used to believe the Bible was inspired by God, but life has taught me that the many verses in the gospel about prayer are either lies by Jesus, or lies by the people who wrote the gospels. I get tired of all the excuses people make for God not being true to his word. I don’t make excuses for him anymore.

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  7. God is good all the time, all the time God is good. Thank you so much for amazing message. That’s really encouraging me and also blessed☺

    Why life is hard for me?

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      You are most welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed this blog post.

      As far as your question about why life is so hard for you; The first thing that came to mind is the verse that Jesus said that in this life we will have tribulation. But we are to be of good cheer, because He has overcome the world.

  8. Thank you pastor for sharing good news with us,am lucky to read this I was in need according to my present situation.God bless you!

  9. Whenever I trust and hope, the opposite is happening.All my works are uprooted. Lots of problems since my childhood.iam fear to anything now. Am at my limits. Pls pray for me and all who suffers

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  10. I need real prayers from you guys, coz for real am stuck in darkness, i don’t know what to do, i lost ma job for now almost 6 months, i don’t work, i sometimes fail to get what to eat, so i need a financial break through and of course spiritual way…

    thanks

    1. Hi Ivan God is in the Midst of everything he will not give us more than we can bare hold on to him he loves you and wants you to trust him

  11. I like this post because I was thinking different from what happened to me three days ago(31/12/2016). I had a head-on accident just few minutes before crossing over to 2017. A car left it lane into my lane and straight hit my car. The the driver does not know why he did that to me. I ma still confused as to why this happened. This is the eighth accident very similar. Almost every car I buy there has be an accident. Please help me pray to know what God is telling me to do. I am am now scared to drive. Thanks.

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  13. This is really great. Many years down the road, I lost my marriage and this really affected me. i have been looking for answers to my ” whys”. God actually has control over everything in our in lives. It really hurts when grieving but we have got to trust God. Thank you so much Pastor Peter.

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      Hi Debra, that’s a great question that Elizabeth answered. I’ve heard it shared by some people before that God will not give you more than you can handle. In my opinion, people who quote that Scripture take it out of context. I believe that the Bible teaches that God will not allow us to be tempted more than we can handle, but that is different than going through trials.

      I believe that there will be many trials that we go in life that we cannot handle. During all of those times, we are to turn to God, surrender to Him, and put our trust in Him for the solution to our problems. This can be done through constant prayer throughout the day as praying just in the morning or at night will not be enough to get one through the hard times.

      I’ve also found it very helpful that when I am going through a trial that is too hard for me to bear, that I encourage myself in the Lord. The way that I do this is that every time that I have a negative thought come into my mind, I replace it with one of God’s truths. For example, if I get a negative thought that says, “This situation is so bad,” then I replace it with a godly truth and I say to myself, “I can trust God because He will deliver me from this problem just like He’s delivered me in the past.”

      Does that make sense?

  14. Couldn’t read the article until I either selected to read the book, or that I wanted no part of God’s voice. Thankfully I am a grateful christian, who is unaffected by such cheap ploys. This is akin to those “share Jesus to ten friends or go to hell”memes I sometimes see. I hope the curious non saved did not see this cheap attempt on their conscience, and simply give up on Christ.

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  15. Nice article Peter! Simple question: technically shouldn’t we say, “Thank God” when anything happens, even something we may perceive as a tragedy? God permits all, and all is for our good, so it stands to reason that if we are of true faith, we’re grateful to God for Everything that happens, right? Unless I’m missing something and there are some things which happen and we should NOT thank God for…

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      Yes Tony, technically, you are correct. However, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

      Sometimes it’s hard to be thankful amidst the death of loved ones or financial hardships. But thank God that we have a God who works all things together for our good for those who love Him and are the called according to His purpose 😊.

  16. Stephen,

    It was no so long ago that I was starting to have the same feelings you express. There was a thought that repeatedly came to mind that saved me from following the same path of belief you did and that is, “the things of God come by faith.” Faith, which I interpret as an “undeniable confidence,” in God is what brings the promises of God into our lives. We know from the Bible that faith is a gift of God. We can’t make ourselves have faith by trying to conjure it up or repeating a scripture over and over. The Bible also tells us “faith comes by hearing and hearing from the Word of God.”
    I recently heard someone speak on us being deceived we have more faith than we do because these thoughts are coming from our soul (mind, will and emotions) but it is not empowered by the Spirit because it is not real faith. Real “undeniable confidence” only comes from God, an experiential relationship with God, meditating on the Word of God and, of course, the grace of God. Reading through psalms really helped me because I realized that God responded to David because of David’s integrity…and I had to ultimately come to the conclusion…I didn’t have integrity to live the life I knew I should be living.

    As a side note, I am going through an extremely difficult battle that has dragged me through severe depression and even crazy prayers because I just wanted God to end my existence. I have yet to see the hand of God dealing with the people in my situation, but I do know He is changing my heart toward the matter and building my character through it.

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  17. Thank you for posting this. I have been going through 2 different trials since July. One was by my hands and now i have been dealing with rhe aftermath and been trying to hear what God has been trying to say to me about why that took place. The other trial I’ve been dealing with is more recent. I fully believe there is a reason for both events and so believe that in time I will understand why these have taken place.

  18. Thank you.
    For over two years I had and still struggle with 5 autoimmune diseases. The newest one was misdiagnosed by two so called specialists in the field.
    I cried out to God in my wilderness with no answer or word from Him. I hear praying, pleading and begging.
    My family doctor knew what it was, however he just needed confirmation.
    Finally in November of last year, I saw a specialist who nailed it, put on medication that is helping beyond belief.
    She told me she suspected another underlying problem connected to this new autoimmune disease and referred me to another specialist.
    This doctor is amazing, after examining me.
    He hit the nail on the head, finally giving a name to the underlying process, I had suffered with since childhood.
    This doctor increased the current medication which blew the two processes out of the water.
    For the first time in decades I was almost normal.
    Then, and this is where I am livid and wonder where God is.
    I was out of town on business, thing were good I had some pain nothing I could not handle.
    Then on the morning I was to drive 180 miles back home. I take a huge ugly fall in the hotel bathroom.
    I could not get up I had to butt scoot to the bed to get my cell phone, I still could not get up.
    The manager on duty had to come up, she called 911.
    The medics were wonderfully caring.
    The helped me up.
    After staying with me for 40 minutes i told them I would seek treatment at home.
    The drive was beyond excruciating, I have dealt with pain but not like this.
    No broken bones just several sprains.
    Now my underlying condition is off the charts, and am back to ground zero.
    I railed on on God yesterday, I let all my anger, hate, resentment and everything else loose on Him.
    I just don’t get it. I tried to see His goodness in all of this but this time I just cannot see it.
    I dont feel like praying for understanding, or even praying at all.
    In all of my other trials I have and totally leaned on him.
    It’s like something broke and I don’t care.
    How do I get back?

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      Hi Vivian, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I know what it’s like to be angry at God because you feel like He doesn’t help you when obviously He has the power to do something. I think it’s not just you that struggles with this, but there are many other Christians who struggle with it as well. I struggled with this in the past so many times.

      Let me ask you this, who do you blame for your fall in the hotel bathroom? Was it God’s fault, your fault, or the hotel’s fault? I ask this with 100% respect to you and to your situation.

    2. Hi Vivian, I pray you are doing better physically and emotionally. I know it’s been 6months since you shared your story, but I feel the Holy Spirit is leading me to share with you and others, to know of the life saving truth I received when I was at the lowest and most desperate state of my life. I had an awful huge mountain of heartache. Starting with a really hard childhood and upbringing that was constantly riddled with despair and devastating circumstances. Followed by being held up at gunpoint, robbed and pistol whipped by a man who murdered 4 innocent victims that same week- which resulted in the development of PTSD, and tortured by multiple, daily panic attacks so severe I would lose consciousness within seconds and my hands would tense up into a position we started to refer to as the “t-Rex” hands- even causing a dangerous wreck where I smashed into the vehicle in front of mine so hard, that my car looked like an acordian, and on a handful of occasions woke up to being carried by a total stranger on my college campus, rushing me to the health clinic at my school. after having to be heavily medicated with anxiety pills, to do the smallest task, like walking to the mailbox, I soon developed a crippling case of survivors guilt. And the onset of my anger and resentment questions with God asking “WHY?” became something I dealt with every single day. I battled with self harm and started to party excessively as a distraction, to the chaos my life was. And then a couple of years following that, I was staring death in the face again. My ex boyfriend threw me to the ground and restrained me while he assaulted me- I was almost beaten to death, and every doctor was puzzled how I survived. My face was broken in 4 places, which warranted reconstructive surgery, on the left side of my face with plates and screws being placed in certain areas, I also had four horrible brain contusions that ended up leaving slight Brain damage that’s irreversible. Along with countless smaller but still severe injuries from head to toe. And not even a full year passed before I was back in the emergency room, screaming in pain, and asking God “WHY?” again- after months of testing I was diagnosed with severe fibromyalgia and haven’t lived a single day since then, where Im not in debilitating pain and discomfort. I was completely hopeless, and use to ask God through tears of despair to just give me a minute to catch my breath before I was faced with the next tragedy. Unfortunately, that didn’t happen. I soon went through a devestating event, and lost everything I owned in a huge flood that came without any warning or clues. I was at the end of my rope, and couldn’t see past the darkness and pain that my life consisted of starting from the tender age of 3. I thought I was unrepairable and worthless. The only answer, I thought, to the constant “WHY’s” I experienced everyday was, suicide. I felt relief , while planning how I was going to kill myself. In a last ditch effort to find the answers, to those “why”s- I randomly opened the Bible to see if God had anything to say and to my absolute amazement, and almost disbelief ; I starting reading the beginning of a paragraph in the book of proverbs, chapter 3, verse 5 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, AND LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING” …for the first time in my life, I could answer WHY, even though that answer isn’t the most insightful, poetic or full of excitement and substance. It was the raw and stripped down truth that I was able to apply to each circumstance individually and to my entire life, collectively- that didn’t lead to more questions or didn’t need any previous bible knowledge required,the reality is- you might not ever learn or hear the answers you’re looking for…but you will find the peace and content required to begin truly healing and moving on, from the one who knit you together in the womb, Jesus. He knows the struggles and heartbreak you have seen, and has a plan for your life!!! Don’t try to answer the questions from your struggles, with a worldly perspective- like we rush to do after tragedy strikes. Instead accept the truth and answers that only Jesus, Christ can offer; even when it doesn’t make sense in our own minds. God won’t let your pain be wasted and has chosen you, specifically for a special task and purpose. You are a fighter and a survivor whose worth is more than rubies!!! If you’re not dead- Gods not done!

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        Oh my goodness, Elise, what a powerful testimony you have! Thank you, thank you, thank you, for sharing this. I can’t tell you enough for the encouragement it is to me to read your story. After all that you have been through and to see that you still believe in God and still praise Him despite of your lack of understanding of why all of the things that happened to you ended up the way that they did is such a HUGE encouragement.

        Elise, I’m planning on publishing a book next year about trusting in God during the difficult seasons in life. May I please have your permission to publish your story in my book?

        1. I’m so sorry for the delayed response! I’m horrible with emails and to be honest, didn’t think anyone would read my comment. I would absolutely love to talk more about your book! If my tragedies can help other people, i consider it a blessing! I’ve never shared my testimony before but God was leading me that night when I responded to her comment. Thank you for your kind words, you’ve given ME the encouragement I needed! I’ve left my husbands email bc he checks it everyday! Let’s chat soon!!! God Bless!

            1. Hi peter! I filled out the form with my contact info! Looking forward to being able to communicate with you soon! Thank you for your patience! -Elise

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