How to stop caring about what people think of you once and for all

How to Stop Caring About What People Think of You Once and for All

Peter Guirguis Encouragement 6 Comments

Do you care too much about what other people think of you?

Here’s a quiz: imagine that for the next ten places that you go shopping, you have to ask the salesperson for a 10% discount.

That’s regardless of whether they’re offering a discount or not on the item that you want to buy.

So imagine that you go to Starbucks for a cup of coffee, and you have to ask the barista for a 10% discount.

If someone dared you to do that, would you do it? Or does the thought of it make you a little nervous?

If you think you’re up to the challenge, then go do it, and then come back and tell us the reaction that you got in the comments section of this blog post.

You might be thinking that it would be easy for you to take on this challenge.

However, when it comes time to order that cup of coffee, trust me, your stomach is going to start having butterflies.

But if you know that you don’t think you’d be up for the task, then don’t worry, most people are like you and me.

Most of us would have a little anxiety about asking for a 10% discount at the next ten places that we shop.

Additionally, most of us would be at least a little nervous about talking to a complete stranger.

The reason for that is because most of us care too much about what other people think about us.

We want people to believe that we’re smart and successful. Nobody wants to have others think of them as being weird, or to think of them in a negative way.

It doesn't matter what other people think of you all that matters is what God thinks of you

You’re Going to Miss Out on Valuable Opportunities

The problem with caring about what other people think of you is that it will prevent you from achieving your goals.

If you don’t become the kind of person that doesn’t care what other people think, then there are going to be many opportunities in life that you’re going to miss.

This is a problem especially when it comes to evangelism.

Most of us don’t share the gospel because we care a lot about how other people are going to perceive us.

So while I write most of the time about evangelism, this post is to help you stop caring about what people think of you in all areas of your life.

I’ve developed a set of questions that are going help you to think about the areas of your life in which you care too much about what people think of you.

If there’s something that you know you should be doing and you’re not because you care too much about what other people think, then go down through these list of questions and answer them.

They will motivate you to overcome your paralysis of caring too much about what other people think.

5 Questions That Will Help You Stop Caring About What Others Think

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Question #1 – Will This Change My Future?

If God has called you to do something, then you can be sure that it’s pretty darn important.

But caring too much about what people think could be stopping you from doing what God is asking you to do.

So how do you overcome that?

All you have to do is think about the future results that you’re going to get by being obedient to God.

Is the thing that you’re going to do going to influence a lot of people? Or is it going to change even just one person’s life in a positive way?

If the answer is yes, then focus on the future results.

You’ll begin to feel motivated to do what God has called you to do when you can picture the positive effect that you’ll have on others.

Question #2 –  Am I Passionate About It?

If you’re not passionate about doing this thing that you’re supposed to be doing, then I would suggest that you don’t do it at all.

Life is too short to do things that you’re not passionate about.

If God has called you to do something, then He’ll also give you the desire to do it.

Delight yourself in the Lord and He'll give you the desires of your heart

Question #3 – Will Something Useful Come Out of It?

Many times doing things that you don’t feel like doing will result in something useful.

Many times we can be motivated by seeing the utility that comes out of doing a particular thing.

For example, I shared in an earlier blog post that I was motivated to lose weight.

I ended up doing a diet, and I lost 29 pounds.

However, it took me almost six months to lose those 29 pounds.

That’s a long time. If you calculate it, that means that I lost a little bit more than half a pound every week.

However, I was hoping to lose 2 pounds a week.

 chocolate cake

I confess, I’m powerless when it comes to chocolate cake.

However, on my weight loss journey, I encountered plateaus and setbacks, especially when I saw my weakness, chocolate cake.

However, by the grace of God, I was able to stay motivated by focusing on the end result.

That end result was going to be a skinnier me that has more energy, and that can buy smaller size clothing.

Those are things that are pretty useful and they motivate me.

Thinking about whether something is going to bring you useful results is many times a motivating factor that will help you take action.

Question #4 – Will I Enjoy the Fruit of My Labor?

If you can picture yourself enjoying the fruits of your labor, then you’re more likely to take action and to stop procrastinating.

Going back to the story of my diet, I was able to stay motivated by focusing on the fruit of my labor.

It was hard to say no to stuffed crust pepperoni pizza, chocolate cake, and bread.

But I knew that I would enjoy the fruits of my labor if I were able to stay away from those foods, and eat instead the things that I was supposed to eat.

Think about the fruit of your labor.

If there’s going to be enjoyment out of this thing that you’re thinking of doing, then focus on that, and it will act as a powerful motivator.

Question #5 – What Resources Do I Need to Accomplish This Goal?

Sometimes the reason you procrastinate doing something is because you lack a resource.

It’s important to take inventory of all of the resources necessary that will help you accomplish your goal.

So make sure that you have everything that you need before you start.

God will give you everything you need

Your Next Action Step to Success

Before you go, if you agree that these questions will help you, then I highly recommend that you take out a piece of paper and start writing your answers to these questions.

Doing this will be an excellent exercise to help you stop caring about what other people think of you, and to start doing that thing that God has called you to do.

I hope that one of those things will be sharing the Gospel.

What’s one area in your life that you care too much about what people think?

 

About the Author

Peter Guirguis

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I'm the Technology Manager of Calvary Chapel South Bay, a church in Gardena, California. I'm also the founder of Grace Digital Solutions, a company that builds websites for businesses and non-profits. My passion is to see people give their life to Christ both offline and online.

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  1. Hey Peter, a while back, you posted about evangelical types. Do you know if they have some tools or a test that can help you discover your personal approach and strength to evangelizing? I think knowing our strengths can also help us overcome our fears of what people think of us. Thanks for the great article. God bless you. 🙂

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      Hi Evan, thank you for your great suggestion. I personally don’t know of any kind of test out there that can tell you your personal evangelism type.

      Did you watch the video of Lee Strobel? If you did, were you able to identify with any of the 6 different evangelism types that he mentioned?

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